A great many women out there keep the fact close to their chest that they may only reach climax through self-arousal. They’d most often than not rely on masturbation
These women, by and large, hold climax reaching through masturbation in such low regard, in that the self-perception as sexually unfit, as if were up to no good and wrongdoing. So, how to go about it?
The failure in climax reaching by regular sex, indeed without the woman playing with herself at the same time, often leads into despair. And so too saps her confidence for making up to her partner’s expectations and, quite often, as undermined and overburden by the poor outlook towards herself as a woman.
In the standpoint of a therapist, however, the fact that she is able to reach climax through clitoral stimulation namely masturbation denotes, roughly, what the experts deem as `normal orgasmic response`. In other words, if she gets it done through direct approach onto the clitoris, it means that her sexual department and its nerve pathway are up to scratch.
In this case, sexual unresponsiveness can’t be blamed on. Plus, in so many cases sexual therapists swear by, playing with the clitoris while at regular sex as a tamper for sexual gratification.
Nonetheless, few women go after effective solutions for the problem. In most cases, the woman gets carried away by fearing that her boyfriend finds out about it and walk out on her because of that, rather than by her desire to indulge herself sexually there and then.
From where stemmed the practice of, pretty average, feigning reactions upon sexual climax.
She fakes orgasm, in a desperate act to prevent that her man savvy what’s really going on.
In the long run, such double-act spell out another drawback. After faking it for so many years, the woman sees herself unable to bring out her sexual issues along with him. Afraid of missing something along the way, she can’t rely on his spot anymore, pivotal in coming to terms with it.
So then, what poises the women for putting up with sexual burden like this? To the understanding of most experts, there’s a very clear picture in all of it, certain stances and inculcations pelted by the establishment itself.
Accordingly with one of such like, female response towards males would be of passivity and subservience if anything.
All the while was told to the women that their position, in confront to the opposite sex, should be of subservience, their very existence would be to serve the man himself (in sexual terms as well), within the scope of submission and subservience.
On top of it, they had to go through with all the bias towards misconceived ideas from their upbringing, as in what links guilt and shame on to sexual indulgence.
So that, other than furthering sexuality as a bonus, an everyday thing and fanciful, the vast majority of women figure their role within the sexual rapport would be passive wise, just for the male’s own sexual indulgence. It becomes then such a deterrent for their leverage.
The upshot of such custom, the woman had to overcome great pitfalls that did arrest the fulfillment of her own sexual urges and demands, handicapping her changes in reaching climax.
The solution for her lies in reassurance and catching up with the relationship. Still the best way forward their self-awareness yet let all hang out.